Vulnerability

I recently heard that vulnerability is the key to success. But what about vulnerability in the workplace. What thoughts come to mind? How does that make you feel?
To me, Vulnerability is all about being open, feeling what you feel and letting other people see you for what and who you are in the moment.
I agree that it is easier said than done when it comes to being unrestricted and honest about your feelings, ideas, strengths, and weaknesses. I like to think I am like an open book. Ask me a question, and I will give you a truthful answer. While being honest is great, not everyone truly wants honesty. (And I will admit that I need to work on my delivery and timing, as well as my acceptance of honest feedback).
Being vulnerable in a workplace setting can be challenging. These are people that you simultaneously know and don’t know. I’m sure that we have all come up with ideas or have developed plans in our heads that seem AMAZING. We are so proud of our concept, and we can’t wait to share it with others because we essentially just solved everyone’s problem. Then you get to that meeting, and you say “Eureka, blah blah blah” to which your co-worker follows up with an “Um, nah.” It is devastating. How do you handle that? Do you try to restate your idea and provide your evidence for why it is a bomb ass idea, or do you shut down? Do you ask your co-worker for feedback on the subject, do you listen to the feedback, and explore a new path?
I don’t often share my ideas, because I’m terrified to be told they suck and I often (100%) internalize that shit. I can be honest with others all day long about their thoughts, I can coach another person down a better path, and reshape your thinking. I try to do this with a positive inflection, so others don’t internalize it. I’ve gotten a bit better over the years. Talking with my besties, or a coworker (who has a feedback delivery method that I can handle) at least helps me clean up my rough draft before I present it the masses (or the 12 other people in my department). I recently joined a new team at work, and I can’t say that I have any grand ideas yet. I am challenging myself that in this new workspace, I will be vulnerable, I will take thoughtful risks, and I will also take feedback to work through it/implement it. And if anyone is reading this – I challenge you to take thoughtful risks and be vulnerable and see if you are able to grow.
Be vulnerable my friends.

Movie Review: Shazam!

This is a great family fun movie about a slightly troubled foster child, Billy Batson, who obtains superhuman abilities after a fateful subway ride, all he has to do is say the magic word.

This is based on one of my brother’s favorite comics (Captain Marvel by Fawcett/DC). Aren’t we all a little familiar with another movie/comic franchise by the same name? But they are not one and the same. Due to copyrights and what not, Captain Marvel is never uttered in the movie, instead, we hear Billy Batson say the word Shazam a lot. By saying this word, Billy is able to transform into a superhero. But he isn’t just a scrawny teenager with powers, this word transforms 14-year-old Billy into a grown ass dude that has the same gifts as some immortal elders.

The movie early on lets us get to know a little bit about Billy and his back story as a foster kid, forever on the search for his mother. Billy lands in a group home ran by former fosters who now house children of all ages, abilities and personality types. Of course, our favorite child is the lovable smart ass sidekick, Freddy Freeman!  Freddy is a know it all /superhero buff. Freddy’s knowledge comes in handy after Billy crosses paths with a wizard who bestows these gifts of strength, intelligence, and power. There are delightful moments in the movie where Billy and Freddy figure out all of Captain Mar…. I mean Captain Thunder’s abilities, save folks, and they have an old fashion montage of superhuman day to day activities. Of course like every other superhero movie there is a supervillain, Thaddeus Sivana, who we know is no good from the very beginning of the movie. He is a sociopath with lots of demons, literally. Dr. Sivana (because almost all supervillains have a graduate degree of some sort) is after the wizard for the powers he once missed out on. As the movie carries on, we experience some heartbreak and friendship scuffles, eventually, we have a climactic event, where Billy Batson/Shazam/Captian Thunder comes head to head with Dr. Sivana and his 7 deadly sin demon friends. In order to win, Billy evokes the help of his foster siblings, sharing his abilities using the magic word and deductive reasoning.  The group of fosters are able to defeat Dr. Sivana and return home to their foster parents with what appears to be a newfound bond. The movie ends on a high, but silent note.

Though I am not typically a fan of the DC movies, because I feel they try a little too hard to be moody/broody, this one was a great watch with delightful surprises and jokes.  I’d give it a 9/10.

Supporting Actors

Did you know that if another person is succeeding, it doesn’t mean that you are losing?

People can be successful without anything being taken away from you. Everyone should want to kick ass at their job, do the best that they can, and you should want your co-workers to do the same. You shouldn’t compare someone’s successes to your own in an unhealthy manner.

Take pride and joy in seeing others you know killing it at work or school. You could use someone’s success to motivate yourself – in the sense of wanting to improve your employer’s reputation, teams production or recognition, and I think it is okay to even want to compare successes in the sense “they can do it, I can too” but I just never think it should be me v. them.

I’ve recently observed women in the workplace put each other down, for no real reason (apparent to me) other than jealousy over competency. Women in my workplace seem to not celebrate another woman’s successes, instead, they see it as a challenge, an undermining, or a slight against them.
This is so strange to me. I am not competitive, I want everyone to win, everyone to learn, and to grow. This could stem from being the youngest child, coming from a small school, who knows. I like co-op games, I like team sports (not that I can play any), I feel like just because someone is good at something, or even better at something than me, it takes nothing away from me. I am still me, I still have the same skills, personality traits, and blah blah blah. It really blows my mind when I hear people try to bring others down, point out flaws, or just plain talk shit about another person in an attempt to make themselves look better or more adequate. When I experience that type of person (which is more frequently recently), it leaves a bad taste in my mouth and makes me hesitant to continue a relationship with them, personal or professional. Though I have no I have very little influence at my workplace and very little influence in the world in general, I just want to encourage others to encourage and celebrate others. And call people out if necessary, but recognize people, praise yourself. Remember when your coworker is successful, you are successful. I don’t know about you, but I like when everyone on my team is kicking ass and taking names.