Did you know that if another person is succeeding, it doesn’t mean that you are losing?
People can be successful without anything being taken away from you. Everyone should want to kick ass at their job, do the best that they can, and you should want your co-workers to do the same. You shouldn’t compare someone’s successes to your own in an unhealthy manner.
Take pride and joy in seeing others you know killing it at work or school. You could use someone’s success to motivate yourself – in the sense of wanting to improve your employer’s reputation, teams production or recognition, and I think it is okay to even want to compare successes in the sense “they can do it, I can too” but I just never think it should be me v. them.
I’ve recently observed women in the workplace put each other down, for no real reason (apparent to me) other than jealousy over competency. Women in my workplace seem to not celebrate another woman’s successes, instead, they see it as a challenge, an undermining, or a slight against them.
This is so strange to me. I am not competitive, I want everyone to win, everyone to learn, and to grow. This could stem from being the youngest child, coming from a small school, who knows. I like co-op games, I like team sports (not that I can play any), I feel like just because someone is good at something, or even better at something than me, it takes nothing away from me. I am still me, I still have the same skills, personality traits, and blah blah blah. It really blows my mind when I hear people try to bring others down, point out flaws, or just plain talk shit about another person in an attempt to make themselves look better or more adequate. When I experience that type of person (which is more frequently recently), it leaves a bad taste in my mouth and makes me hesitant to continue a relationship with them, personal or professional. Though I have no I have very little influence at my workplace and very little influence in the world in general, I just want to encourage others to encourage and celebrate others. And call people out if necessary, but recognize people, praise yourself. Remember when your coworker is successful, you are successful. I don’t know about you, but I like when everyone on my team is kicking ass and taking names.
Saramonious 